THE TRUTH ABOUT HEALING
.. And why it’s so important for your experience on this earth
Healing is not easy. But feeling stuck neither. Now ask yourself what’s worse? Going through temporary pain, knowing that you’ll be rewarded after, or staying where you are right now, leaving the potential of who you could have been behind.
Healing is not about fixing something that’s been broken in the first place. Healing is about finding your way back to your authentic self, which requires you to confront ALL parts of yourself! It’s about digging deep into the darkest parts of your soul and learning to embrace all of it. No human can be entirely bad or good, that’s not how life works. Everyone of us is born with both - good and bad.
And that’s where most people give up. That’s where most people choose comfort. It takes a lot of courage to commit oneself to heal fully and truly but I can guarantee you that it’ll be the most beautiful, powerful and life changing journey one could possibly commit to.
And that’s the real beauty that comes with healing I guess - you embark on this journey, not knowing exactly where it’s headed, but still trusting that at the end of it, you’ll find something much greater than ever imagined. You’ll find true happiness and freedom. A sense of alignment and purpose. You’ll feel accepted, whole and complete just by the virtue of BEING unapologetically you, you’ll feel a love for yourself that no one else on this world could ever provide you with. And that, for me, is the most powerful tool one can have. The ability to love oneself unconditionally.
This is probably one of the most important and personal chapters I’ve ever written about healing and manifestation, and comes at a time where I am beginning to truly understand how to use my energy to manifest my reality. Manifesting, at the most basic level, is about receiving the desires and vision of your soul unclouded by the doubts and fears of your mind or past pain, and then working with your emotions, intuition, and the Universe itself to attract these desires into your personal reality. I am sure most of you have already heard terms like “The Law of Attraction, everything is energy” and so on.
It truly is this profoundly beautiful process of leaning in to which future version of you that you’d like to access and then tapping into the aligned desire for you to manifest. But for you to reach that point of manifesting authentically and from a soul level, there’s a lot of shitty work you gotta do first - I’m being honest with you on this one lol.
We are energetic beings. Emotions are energy. When past pain no longer consumes your energy, when you no longer continue to recreate past painful experiences based on fear-based beliefs that were never really true, but just the subconscious program running in your head, this opens you up for the true gift of life, which essentially is creating. Healing sets you in the perfect condition to focus all of your energy on leaning into the reality you want to create. There’s nothing that’s stopping, hindering or blocking you from the core of your soul and the unlimited creative potential of infinite source energy. Your energy is no longer used up by pain and negativity, but available for pleasure and power. Getting your mind to believe that you deserve this, and that it’s safe to receive is an incredible journey! Because you’ve healed past conflicts, you’re no longer held back by unconscious fears making it feel like you can’t make progress no matter what you do. Outer reality is just a projection of our inner world. Once you’ve stopped to subconsciously manifest what you don’t want, you basically allow yourself to manifest any kind of life you want INTENTIONALLY.
I know that sounds crazy if you haven’t experienced it, but take a moment to consider — Isn’t everything you have now a reflection of what you believe is possible? A reflection of the most you’ve allowed yourself to ask for, or how you believe life works? If you’ve been giving your power away, that may feel confronting, but think about it. It’s true. We always and only get what we believe we deserve. You are not a victim of circumstance, but a powerful co-creator with the ability to manifest anything you want, as long as you do the healing. This entire world is basically a daydream and we create our realities based on our dominant feelings and beliefs.
This is the truth about healing and manifestation most people are not willing to hear. People who don’t believe this simply haven’t experienced it. Life doesn’t punish us for our pain. It simply responds to us. It may not be fair, but it’s just how it works. When you know how to play the game, you can emerge victorious. It’s taken me a long time to understand this about healing and manifestation. Intellectually I may have understood it long before, but to feel the power of having all your energy no longer trapped by past pain, and the profound beauty of feeling the energy of the present moment and receiving guidance from the infinite source is inexplicably beautiful.
The reason I can get so close to my soul, and harness my emotional energy in such an undiluted way for creation is because of all the profound healing work I’ve done. This is everything. And it’s not even about getting what you want. It’s about becoming the powerful person you’ve always known you could be.
As we work to heal, we see just how interconnected our illnesses are with the rest of our lives, and we realize that in order to manifest the lives we want for ourselves, we must incorporate our healing process as an important component of manifestation. What does healing have to do with manifestation?
We are always manifesting, every single day, often without being conscious of it. Because we’re filled with the toxicity, negativity and our self limiting beliefs, because we’re so self-hating and self-destructive, what we end up manifesting tends to be the opposite of what we actually want for ourselves. We create more problems for ourselves, more issues to resolve, more pain to have to heal from. We want to get to the point where we are able to manifest exactly what we do want for ourselves. We want to attract and create the happiness, peace, fulfillment and redemption that have eluded us for so long while we’ve struggled with all these obstacles in our lives. Healing has everything to do with manifestation. In order to be able to cultivate our desires and radiate at the same frequency in order to make those desires a reality, we have to clear the toxic energy and the subconscious beliefs that are limiting us, holding us back and hurting us. We have to stop feeding the energy that is causing us to create circumstances, and lives, that is the root to our pain, that we’re ashamed of, regretful about, and unhappy with. In order to consciously manifest joy, peace and success, we have to believe we’re deserving of them. We have to believe we’re worthy. We have to learn how to love ourselves and actively work towards healing.
Healing our fears and clearing our energetic blocks are the basis of conscious manifestation. Without them, we will continue to manifest more struggle, more lack, more dissatisfaction and more pain.
So what I had to do was to put down all these constructs and beliefs I’ve built up around myself and my life and ask myself: “What is my meaning on this earth & how can I be able to give myself the love that I for so long tried to find in the outer world?”
One thing I had to learn is that in order for me to heal, I had to finally allow myself to FEEL all emotions. Honestly guys, you gotta stay real with yourself when it comes to showing emotions. I never ever allowed myself to show off my emotions, especially in front of other people - I thought this would make me seem week! Often times we’re not even allowing ourselves to see and obv feel what’s happening inside of us.
As I surrendered, I no longer felt the need to suppress my emotions, but to fully allow them in order to heal - because for you to heal, you just face ALL the parts of yourself, even the ones you hate lost about yourself. But accepting, appreciating and giving especially those parts the love and compassion they need, is healing. It’s digging deep into the mud of your soul, cleansing the body, mind and soul to break free from all those negative thoughts patterns and limiting beliefs we all hold onto. Healing is forgetting all the things you once thought would define you, it’s getting lost through the journey of finding your truest self! And once you found it, it’s one of the most freeing & peaceful feeling you could possibly have. You’ll feel whole, complete and full of love. The love only YOU can give yourself!
Healing allowed me to connect even more with my higher self on a spiritual level. Healing gave me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, find the courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
During that time, I realized that I masked certain traumas and beliefs I had around myself through being determined and ALWAYS disciplined - this pattern repeated itself while being a student, during my eating disorder and even long after recovering - I always felt like I had to keep up with the hard work in the gym to be loved and accepted - but none of that actually helped me to love myself - I tried to project confidence, strength and self love - but internally there was still that hurt little girl. It wasn’t until I started my healing journey, where I finally could look at myself in the mirror and truly love the women I saw. Since going to elementary school, I basically hated myself and always found ways to talk myself down, to dim my light - I was lost, until I truly committed to this journey & found the peace and love WITHIN ME, instead of temporarily numbing the vastness of my soul with external things. It’s such an authentic, heartwarming feeling, when you finally can look up to yourself, be proud of you and acknowledge the beauty that lies within you.
Something I would tell my younger self during challenging times would be to not be so quick to come up for air, when you hit rock bottom. Don’t try to panic & escape it, because that’s what’s going to drown you - Instead, take a second to acknowledge what’s going on around you, evaluate, understand what brought you to this point in the first place and let it all in, just for a second. I guarantee you that staying there for just a little more than needed, will provide you with the wisdom and knowledge you truly need to move a step closer towards reaching your personal greatness - it’s all at that bottom. I would even go so far to say that YOU NEEDED to see that bottom for you to be able to understand what’s hindering you from becoming the best version of yourself. All the obstacles, all the losses and things I went through, were simply lessons for me to finally understand what my inner child screamed for - love and acceptance. & Once I allowed myself to feel that, I realized that I am limitless. Limitless in my potential, in my growth and in my life. I realized, that all these obstacles would simply dissolve, the moment I stopped giving them enough power to survive in my reality.
Once you understand that those are the only limits one can have, you’ll stop talking yourself down & see that you too can achieve greatness - if you’re willing to step into the fear & get beyond that. Understand that everything in life is there to teach you something or to push you ti grow - Read that again if you must! That’s the key note that allowed myself to truly heal. Once I understood that changing my perspective on healing would help me with actually achieving all the big things I dreamed of, I took all my courage and made myself dirty for some time. But I can guarantee you, the beautiful flower that’s growing and evolving right now, thanks to it, will be so worth my time and my effort.
If there’s one piece of advice I’d like you to take away from today’s blog post it’s “Learn to be your best friend.” It took me so long to finally realize, when you can look at yourself in the mirror & truly enjoy your own company - that’s when everything else outside of you will slowly start to fall into place - exactly how and when it’s meant to.
You don’t need external things to make you feel good - nothing could EVER replace the wholeness and completeness you feel, once you start to embrace yourself FULLY.
Do you feel worthy enough, whole and complete just as you are? Do you feel worthy of receiving everything you desire in this lifetime? Do you treat yourself with unconditional kindness and love?
Do you feel good enough to be successful? If not you gotta start there, before trying to change your outer circumstances.
That’s why healing is NECESSARY and a crucial part of your personal / spiritual journey!
Because, for you to fully heal and embrace yourself, you must meet all parts of you with kindness, unconditional love and compassion. You must give those wounds and shadows the love and affection that they never experienced in the first place.
Change your mind and see the life around you change too.
That’s it for this week’s post. I hope that it will give you something you can put into use in your own life, to change it for the better. Feel free to share this with anyone who needs to here this!
Lots of love and until next week 💚✨🧚🏼
Francesca